Wednesday, May 24, 2006

Love does not act Unseemly: Part 2

Sexual Rudeness

Our culture has blurred the line between love and sex. To many, sex is the highest expression of love. We see this throughout the media and entertainment industry. Love is pictured as a fire that grows between two people and it climaxes with the two having sex; with or without the benefit of marriage. While the significance of sex between two loving individuals united by the bonds of marriage cannot be overstated, sex does not equal love.

God not only fashioned us for sex, He also created sex to be a tremendous uniting force between a man and a woman who are joined by marriage. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” (Gen 2:24) A husband is to leave his home and cleave to his wife and, through sexual intimacy, they are to grow together as one flesh. God created sex yet in His wisdom He has given it to be experienced only by those who have entered into a covenant of marriage. “Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” (Hebrews 13:4) Throughout the scriptures God has condemned sex outside of marriage. Fornication, adultery, incest, homosexuality, and bestiality are all condemned by God. What we need to understand is that love does not behave in these ways. For example, if we are involved in an adulterous relationship, our passions may be the result of lust but they are not the result of love. Love does not express itself through improper and inappropriate sexual conduct, contact, and advancements. These things are the fruit of lust, not of love.

Some may say that there is no harm when sexual relations are entered into by two consenting adults, yet someone is always hurt by illicit sex. “Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own?” (1 Corinthians 6:18-19) When we sin sexually, not only do we sin against ourselves and our body but we also sin against God. Someone waling in love would not do this to themselves, to another person, or to their God and creator.

So how do we know if we have crossed the line sexually? Paul instructs Timothy, “Do not sharply rebuke an older man, but rather appeal to him as a father, to the younger men as brothers, the older women as mothers, and the younger women as sisters, in all purity.” (1 Timothy 5:1-2) Here is the test: are you treating other people (other than your spouse) as your mothers and sisters and you fathers and brothers? Men, is your behavior with another woman consistent with how you would behave with your sister? Women, do you relate to other men as you would to your brother? These boundaries will not only help us to stay pure sexually but also help us in living out love to one another.

More to come… David Robison


  1. If Jesus is the Almighty God, then who kept things in order when the virgin Mary carried him in her womb ?

  2. An interesting question. The reason that it can be difficult to understand this is because it is difficult for us finite humans to understand the nature of God. There are many analogies that could be used to explain how this can be, here is but one. Imagine God as a body of water. Some of the water is liquid and some is frozen, like an iceberg or an ice cube. It is all God, the liquid water and the frozen water, but it is just in different forms. We could say that the frozen water was Jesus, He was God, but He was just one form or expression of God. There is in physics what they call the triple-point of water. At a specific temperature and pressure, water exists simultaneously as liquid, solid, and vapor. Water is simultaneously melting, boiling, condensing, and freezing. The same water is present in three distinct forms, but it is still just H2O, water. I'm sure others could give a much better explanation, but I hope this helps. Thanks for reading and I hope what I've written has been a blessing to you.

    David Robison

  3. Does the almighty God have a personal name?

    Jesus opened the Lord's prayer by telling us to sanctify God's name. What did he mean, and how can you sanctify a name that you do not know?

    What issue did Satan the Devil raise in the Garden of Eden?

  4. Why did Jesus say that the Father is greater than he?

    While on earth, did Jesus pray to himself or another supreme being?

    Why does the Bible refer to Jesus as God's Son, if they are both one in the same?

    Why does the Bible refer to Jesus as God's only-begotten Son?

    Why does the Bible refer to Jesus as the almighty God's firstborn Son?

    Why is the preaching work so important to true Christians?

    Please read Psalms 83:18. I would love for you to comment on that scripture. Please compare at least 3 or 4 Bible translations while looking up this scripture.

    I am waiting for your reply.